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Are You Addicted to a Commitment Phobic Man?

What stage is your relationship in?

Or if you are not in a relationship, at what stage do your relationships always end and why?

Even if your relationship seems at the peak of passion, or chaotic and out of control, or at equilibrium, it is at a
predictable stage and there are more stages for it to reach. Identifying the stages of your relationship and the attributes, stumbling blocks, and joys of each stage can help you negotiate it and the future with more success, peace, and love.

Stage 1: The Honeymoon
According to love songs and fairy tales, this stage is what love is supposed to be like. You meet, you connect, you fall in love. Everything seems right. Nothing seems out of place. Even if some things don't seem right, you are full of hope they will work themselves out.

• When it starts and how long it lasts: This stage can start from day one, but it's usually in effect within the first month and can last between three to six months.
  
• The joy: You feel more alive, more expanded, more in touch with life, beauty, joy, maybe spirituality, and perhaps yourself. You have hope. You feel exhilarated, or at least exited. You have fun. These are all very wonderful feelings and should be celebrated and enjoyed.
  
• The stumbling block: You may overlook whether your partner is truly compatible with you and rush into the depth of the relationship too soon and/or with the wrong person. And this, in turn, can mean you will breakup and get hurt down the road.
  
• What to do: Enjoy, have fun, but slow down and don't count on a future together yet. Get to know each other first. If you are right for each other, there is no reason to rush in -- you will have a lifetime together. If you are wrong for each other, you will save yourself much heartache.

Stage 2: The Discovery
During this stage, the initial excitement of being together is subdued so you can actually discover who the other person really is. You and your partner begin to discover each other's quirks and neurosis, and you uncover things that bug you about each other. You also begin to discover what you truly love and respect about one another. Your communication should deepen to a soulful level, where you begin to open up to each other.

• When it starts and how long it lasts: This stage starts between 3 and 6 months and can last for a number of years, depending on how comfortable the couple is with self-disclosure and how fast or slow the couple wants to progress in emotional intimacy.
  
• The joy: The joy is the discovery; you are close enough to be able to glimpse the other person, his or her vulnerabilities, beauty, even quirks -- which you may think are cute. The joy is also in seeing evidence that you have chosen the right person (if in fact you have such evidence), as well as in deep communication and budding emotional intimacy.
  
• The stumbling block: You may begin to discover things that drive you crazy about each other. You may also discover that the two of you do things in very different fashions, or have vastly different interests. This is a time of choice and you may not want to choose.
  
• What to do: Look with open eyes at both the beauty -- internal and external -- of your partner and the ugliness and quirks you are discovering. This is a time of choice and often in relationships we choose what feels good now over choosing what will feel good in the long run -- and we suffer for it. Decide if this person is a good fit for you for the long run and wants the same future as you.

Stage 3: The Commitment
This is the stage most singles fantasize about -- the placewhere the relationship is settled, you know you are together, and you can finally relax. This is the stage most couples try to rush into and arrive at too soon. And it is a wonderful stage, but rather than an end of a process, it is only the beginning. In many ways, a relationship does not truly begin until a couple commits to each other.

• When it starts and how long it lasts: The Commitment Stage starts once each person decides to commit to either live together or get married, or to another form of deep commitment.
  
• The joy: The joy is the sense of having arrived and no longer having to strive to win your partner. The joy is the discovery of who your partner is when committed to you, because commitment brings out a change in the behavior of each person. The joy is having someone to watch movies with and cook dinner with and hang out with and do ordinary things. The joy is having a person you love to share a life with.
  
• The stumbling block: Many people begin to take each other for granted during this stage. Because they have arrived, they begin to pay less attention to the relationship and to their partner. And because one of the benefits we seek from a relationship is the attention from our partner, when it lags, problems begin. The other stumbling block is that we may not pay enough attention to communication. Issues that need to be communicated may fall by the wayside for fear of rocking the boat. They will come back to haunt the relationship later.
  
• What to do: Enjoy the togetherness and your new commitment, but remember to do two things: Make your relationship a priority no matter what else is happening in your life. And make sure your lines of communication are open; you are speaking to and listening to each other.

Stage 4: The Power Struggle
This is the stage at which most couples split up. The power struggle can be a gut wrenching, painful place for a couple to be. This can be a time of arguments or silence, a time that truly will test the couple's determination. Most couples at this stage wonder how they got there since it comes on unexpectedly out of nowhere. Because almost all of the relationship up to this point has been joy, it is a very shocking place for a couple to end up.

• When it starts and how long it lasts: This stage can start as soon as the commitment is solidified -- the couple makes a deep commitment, gets married, moves in together, etc., or soon thereafter. It can last until the couple breaks up, or for many years. Or the couple can find a way to work through this stage and move into the next stages of the relationship.
  
• The joy: There is not much joy in this stage. The joy may be in the periods when you are not power struggling and are enjoying each other's company. The other joy is in not arguing, or resolving an argument quickly, even some of the time.
  
• The stumbling block: There are two prime stumbling blocks. One is that when couples get to this stage they do not realize it is a normal stage for all relationships, and that they can get through it. Instead, the couple thinks something is wrong -- perhaps they are no longer compatible or they no longer belong together. The second stumbling block is that the couple can get stuck in this stage, with one of both partners being unwilling to move forward. This will eventually wear the relationship down until there will be nothing left.
  
• What to do: There are no simple solutions to a power struggle in a relationship. But here are a few suggestions:
  
  • Communicate
    
  • Give in on anything that is not important to you
    
  • Give up behaviors, views, and attitudes that are hurting the relationship
    
  • Remember that you love each other
    
  • Don't retaliate, no matter how much you feel hurt
    

I cannot say enough about how important it is to negotiate the power struggle stage successfully in order to keep your relationship alive and thriving.

At this point in your relationship you will follow one of two tracks, and I will be describing both. A couple who has negotiated the power struggle successfully will most likely follow Track One. Couples who did not negotiate the power struggle successfully and who require work in their relationship are more likely to follow Track Two.

Track One: What Happens When the Power Struggle is Over?  
Track Two: What Happens When the Power Struggle is Over?

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